The Real Scoop
Hey Girlz! Did you keep it real by answering this week's quiz, either on your own or with a gal pal? Check out the key below to find out a little more about yourself.
And one more thing, just because we have the "answers" on this quiz; try to remember not to just define yourself by categories or labels. You are already the uniquely awesome person that God created you to be—quiz or no quiz.
Quiz Topic: Journey to your True Self
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If you starred A, it sounds like you need attention — the kind that makes you smile and glow. The kind that nudges you to be more helpful, brave, friendly or whatever it was that got people to notice you in the first place. That doesn’t mean stand on a table in the cafeteria and yell, “Look at what I did!” It does mean the following:
• Do the things you do well because you enjoy them, not so everybody will say, “Wow.”
• Discover what it is about you that even one person seems to like, and go with it — whether it’s the way you smile, how well you listen, or the fact that you never spread gossip.
• Give other people the kind of attention you want — praise, sympathy, a big laugh at their jokes.
• If you’re feeling a little neglected by one of your parents, rather than whine or accuse, ask for some time together — even just an hour alone.
• If you don’t think you do anything well, try things that sound fun or interesting to you. Have such a blast doing them that you don’t worry about anyone noticing how good you are at them (although people probably will).
• Remember that God is always watching you enjoy your successes, being there the instant you need him. You have his undivided attention.
If you starred B, it may be that you’re struggling to be accepted for who you really are — or you’re trying to find out who you are. That doesn’t mean that whatever you do, you think everybody should say, “That’s just the way she is.” It means you want that calm feeling that comes when you don’t have to worry whether people think you’re lame or geeky or just generally strange. Try some of these:
• Don’t hang out with people who make fun of you. Don’t even try to be friends with them.
• Find at least one person who appreciates your special qualities or interests — your book collection, your huge vocabulary, your total love of cats. Invite her over or ask her to sit with you at lunch.
• Show your family or your classmates that the very thing they want to change in you can really be a good thing for them. If they say you’re too quiet, listen when they have a problem. If they say you’re not athletic, cheer from the sidelines when they’re playing, or make a banner, or write encouraging notes if they lose. The people who love you will begin to appreciate who you are instead of trying to turn you into what they think would make you happier.
• Love who you are. Nobody is more appealing than a for real person.
• Remember that God made your true self. He’s there to help you be just that.
If you starred C, it just may be that you want to be allowed to grow up. Perhaps the adults in your life don’t see that, or they think you’re trying to be older too fast. It’s sort of like walking around in shoes that are too small for you and are pinching your toes. That doesn’t mean you should ignore the limits grown-ups put on you, because you need some. But if you feel you’re being treated like a baby, you can try some of these:
• Be mature in ways that are right for your age — doing chores without having to be reminded and not slacking off in school.
• Be mature in ways that will surprise people — offering to watch your little brother so your mom can take a bubble bath, refusing to exclude a girl everyone else is leaving out, putting part of your allowance in the collection plate.
• Make a list of things you know are not your decision — like what time you go to bed or whether you go to school. Then make a list of things you would like to decide about your life, within your parents’ limits, of course — such as how you wear your hair, what books you read for fun, what sports you play. Show both lists to your parents and ask if you can make at least one of the choices on the second list.
• If you need more privacy, ask for it politely. “May I have my door closed for an hour after school?” “Could you please knock before you come in the bathroom?”
• Take care of your stuff. Keep your room at least a little bit organized. Be “together” when it’s time to leave for school. Those things show that you are growing up.
• Dream about how you want your life to be when you’re in charge of it. Keep a journal or make a scrapbook about your imagined future.
• With your friends, or alone, pretend you’re grown-up. You‘re never too old for dress up or acting games.
• Look forward to things to come — going to high school football games, getting a driver’s license, wearing makeup, going shopping with your girlfriends, playing on a school team. But don’t hurry them. Enjoy what you have right now — no money worries, time to play and daydream, permission to giggle your head off.
• Do the things you do well because you enjoy them, not so everybody will say, “Wow.”
• Discover what it is about you that even one person seems to like, and go with it — whether it’s the way you smile, how well you listen, or the fact that you never spread gossip.
• Give other people the kind of attention you want — praise, sympathy, a big laugh at their jokes.
• If you’re feeling a little neglected by one of your parents, rather than whine or accuse, ask for some time together — even just an hour alone.
• If you don’t think you do anything well, try things that sound fun or interesting to you. Have such a blast doing them that you don’t worry about anyone noticing how good you are at them (although people probably will).
• Remember that God is always watching you enjoy your successes, being there the instant you need him. You have his undivided attention.
If you starred B, it may be that you’re struggling to be accepted for who you really are — or you’re trying to find out who you are. That doesn’t mean that whatever you do, you think everybody should say, “That’s just the way she is.” It means you want that calm feeling that comes when you don’t have to worry whether people think you’re lame or geeky or just generally strange. Try some of these:
• Don’t hang out with people who make fun of you. Don’t even try to be friends with them.
• Find at least one person who appreciates your special qualities or interests — your book collection, your huge vocabulary, your total love of cats. Invite her over or ask her to sit with you at lunch.
• Show your family or your classmates that the very thing they want to change in you can really be a good thing for them. If they say you’re too quiet, listen when they have a problem. If they say you’re not athletic, cheer from the sidelines when they’re playing, or make a banner, or write encouraging notes if they lose. The people who love you will begin to appreciate who you are instead of trying to turn you into what they think would make you happier.
• Love who you are. Nobody is more appealing than a for real person.
• Remember that God made your true self. He’s there to help you be just that.
If you starred C, it just may be that you want to be allowed to grow up. Perhaps the adults in your life don’t see that, or they think you’re trying to be older too fast. It’s sort of like walking around in shoes that are too small for you and are pinching your toes. That doesn’t mean you should ignore the limits grown-ups put on you, because you need some. But if you feel you’re being treated like a baby, you can try some of these:
• Be mature in ways that are right for your age — doing chores without having to be reminded and not slacking off in school.
• Be mature in ways that will surprise people — offering to watch your little brother so your mom can take a bubble bath, refusing to exclude a girl everyone else is leaving out, putting part of your allowance in the collection plate.
• Make a list of things you know are not your decision — like what time you go to bed or whether you go to school. Then make a list of things you would like to decide about your life, within your parents’ limits, of course — such as how you wear your hair, what books you read for fun, what sports you play. Show both lists to your parents and ask if you can make at least one of the choices on the second list.
• If you need more privacy, ask for it politely. “May I have my door closed for an hour after school?” “Could you please knock before you come in the bathroom?”
• Take care of your stuff. Keep your room at least a little bit organized. Be “together” when it’s time to leave for school. Those things show that you are growing up.
• Dream about how you want your life to be when you’re in charge of it. Keep a journal or make a scrapbook about your imagined future.
• With your friends, or alone, pretend you’re grown-up. You‘re never too old for dress up or acting games.
• Look forward to things to come — going to high school football games, getting a driver’s license, wearing makeup, going shopping with your girlfriends, playing on a school team. But don’t hurry them. Enjoy what you have right now — no money worries, time to play and daydream, permission to giggle your head off.
