4 basics to build your family up this fall

It might seem elementary…

But hey, as we’re all adjusting to back-to-school life, we find ourselves reviewing the basics.

All families have some basic relational courtesies that bear revisiting. It’s funny how busyness and weariness lead us to forget a few things that end up being great “glue” for our husbands, kids, and us as moms.

Ready to review a few of these basics?

1. Greetings

As you see your family members first thing in the morning, upon their arrival home after school, or in the evening after a day full of activities, stop what you’re doing, look them in the eye, and greet them. Say “good morning,” “hi,” or “welcome back” with a smile.

It might sound ridiculously simple, but it means so much to have a warm welcome back into the family after a difficult day, stressful activities, or even an all-too-short night of sleep.

2. Gooodbyes

As your husband and kids take off for the day or evening, acknowledge their departure. Yep, you probably have 17 irons in the fire as your door opens and closes, but if possible, let them know that you realize they’re leaving.

And when you’re headed out, tell them goodbye, let them know you care, and when appropriate, assure them you’ll be praying for them.

3. Caring Touch

Life is so fast-paced. Your husband, kids, and you all have a zillion things to worry about today. Stress and adrenaline are coursing through everyone’s bodies. One great way to stop the negative chemicals and release some endorphins is to give a hug or a kiss. Hold a hand. Give a shoulder rub.

You know your family. Meet each person where they are with whatever little gesture will mean the most to them.

4. Prayer

As your family members share their frustrations, fears, or burdens, take a minute and pray for them. Pray together with them if you can. As you do, you save yourself the pain of bearing the stress yourself, and you’ll point yourself and your loved one back to the God who can truly help them.

And for the numerous burdens that you may not even speak about with them, lift them up to the Lord throughout the day. “Cast all your anxieties on him, for he cares for you” 1 Peter 5:7.

Basic? Yep.

Simple? Yep.

Effective? Yes!

Do yourself and your family a favor by building each other up this fall!


by Jennifer Ebenhack