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Three Things Your Tween Girl Needs


The word “tween” begs for grace.

Life between childhood and young adulthood. 

Life lived with newness, uncertainties, and sometimes awkwardness.

It’s a season that only makes sense to those who have long ago passed through it.

What can you do for your tween as she wades through the delightful yet murky years between?

First of all… Remember.

Think back to the days you too struggled. Remember the emotions? The obsessions? The embarrassment that you still enjoyed childish activities, yet also longed to be taken seriously?

Secondly… Pray.

There are times when our tweens excel at revealing human depravity and self-centeredness! Even when they’re being raised in the nurture and instruction of the Lord, they struggle with deep spiritual questions and doubts, defensiveness, and self-righteousness. They have a hard time seeing themselves as they really are. (As we all do!)

Being grounded in God’s Word is crucial. As is prayer. Our “faithgirlz” are growing out of spoon-fed spirituality.

Pray that they will hunger and thirst for the Lord and His Word. Pray for the Holy Spirit to work in their hearts and change their perspective.

While we can draw boundaries, He is the only one can transform from the inside out.

Thirdly… Take the time to really see them.

Because our tweens are in-between, our attention often gets sucked up by little ones or teenagers with the “big life issues.”

Our tweens might fight off our affection and attention one moment, yet desperately crave it the next. They need lots of grace.

And they need for us to look them straight in the eyes, listen to their concerns, and see them. Not only for who they are, but for who God is developing them into.

As you remember your own tween years, pray for your daughter, and take the time to really see her, keep in mind how gracious our Heavenly Father is with us. We’re “tween” too. Between saved and sanctified.

When we stop and think it through, we’ve got a lot in common with our girls!

A Monday-Friday Back-to-School Prayer Guide

BacktoSchool Prayer Guide

As your daughter starts the school year, bless her with the gift of prayer.

Here’s a Monday through Friday guide that you can use all year long!

On MONDAYS, pray for your tween’s MIND. Pray for understanding as she begins classes once more.

And whatever you do, do it heartily, as to the Lord and not to men.
—Colossians 3:23

Lord, I lift my daughter up to you today, asking that her mind would be clear. Help her to focus in class, do her best, and gain the knowledge that she needs to best serve and honor you.

On TUESDAYS, pray for your daughter’s ability to resist TEMPTATION.

No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man; but God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will also make the way of escape, that you may be able to bear it. —1 Corinthians 10:13

Jesus, please enable _________ to stand firm against peer pressure and the endless temptations she faces. Protect her from enemy schemes. Help her to turn to you to find a way to escape what tempts her most.

On WEDNESDAYS, pray for your tween to find the WISDOM that comes from God alone.

The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom, And the knowledge of the Holy One is understanding. —Proverbs 9:10

Lord, give my daughter discernment. Let her see the destruction that comes from foolish choices and the peace that comes from following you. Grant her wisdom beyond her years and courage to choose what is right and good.

On THURSDAYS, ask God to give your daughter a THIRST for Him and His Word.

As the deer pants for the water brooks, So pants my soul for You, O God.

—Psalm 42:1

Jesus, please help __________ to hunger and thirst for more of you. Help her not to be satisfied by the pleasure of this world, the approval of men, or an illusion of self-sufficiency. Help her know her need for you. Help her to seek you and the truth of your Word daily.

On FRIDAYS, pray for your tween’s relationships with her FRIENDS.

The righteous should choose his friends carefully, For the way of the wicked leads them astray. —Proverbs 12:26

Lord, please guide my daughter to wise and godly friends. Protect her from the influence of those who would lead her astray. Enable _______ to lead her friends closer to you. And help her to shine the light of your love and your truth to those who need to know you.

As you watch your daughter grow and be stretched this year, remember…

He “…is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that works in us…” —Ephesians 3:20




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