It’s easy to forget what it was like to be a girl, but maybe the best way to open the lines of communication with your daughter is to be 13 again.
Yes, God likes you to be in the present…
17 Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!
– Corinthians 5:17)
A temporary time-trip into your past could be a divine gift. How so?
It might help you better relate to your daughter by opening up meaningful topics of convo.
Share a Most Embarrassing Moment
Whether you tripped onstage during a recital or passed gas in a fancy restaurant, your little girl will get a good chuckle when you tell her of the slip-up that stained your cheeks candy-apple red. She’ll get that you, too, were once a “real girl” and—who knows?—she might even feel inclined to share her most cringe-worthy moment ever.
Tell Her About Your First Crush
If it’s in your comfort zone, you might even talk about your first kiss. Don’t force the conversation, just let it flow, perhaps bringing it up during a particularly sweet movie scene you’re watching together. If she won’t tell you about her school crush, that’s OK—respect her privacy. But just about any girl is willing to talk about her celebrity crush!
Break Out the Old Yearbook
Pull the high-school or middle-school yearbook from the closet shelf, and dust it off. Show your daughter what your class picture looked like (too much hairspray and a retainer-lined grin?). Flip through to show her the clubs and sports you were active in, and have fun reminiscing while you read what your school friends signed in your book.
While you’re clearing the cobwebs, show her some of your other teenage memorabilia—athletic trophies, ticket stubs, and more.